The Third Party

“third party” 1. a person or group besides the two primarily involved in a situation, especially a dispute. 2. relating to a person or group besides the two primarily involved in a situation. “third-party suppliers” Google definition of the third party. The third party does more damage than you think in relationships’ intimate or nonintimate. The […]

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Dr. Jekyll Mr. Hyde

When you’re in a relationship, things can sometimes get really bad. Sometimes you don’t know what the problem is or why your perfect world is all of a sudden crumbling. And when that happens, you might have thoughts about leaving. I had that thought several times. But I couldn’t bring myself to turn away from […]

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When you become pregnant sometimes you aren’t where you want to be in life. Sometimes you’re not financially stable, so you begin to depend on your partner for a lot. I was not prepared to take care of a child. I was barely surviving on my own. So my partner asked me to depend on him. Of course I was skeptical but eventually,  I did become 100% dependent on him. And that was a BIG MISTAKE. Even if a man says he wants you to depend on him, DON’t DO IT. What he really means is that he wants you to be independent and only ask him for help. Every time I asked help from a friend or family member, there was a problem because he didn’t feel like a man. Then he begins snooping around while I was asleep. I kinda distanced myself from my friends and family because I felt like I needed him to trust me. Shortly after, the abuse began. It started with belittling me to make himself feel more manly. My clothes had to change because they were too tight or provocative for a mother to wear. If I tried to share something I learned, I was called stupid because he wanted to be smarter than me. When I would explain my feelings after an argument, I was told I was holding on to negatively and trying to keep up an argument.

Before I used to be goofy and silly. I used to laugh at almost anything and I loved being around others. I couldn’t be myself anymore. Did he really want me to stop being me? No, but he did want me to be who he wanted to me to be. I didn’t have money but I provided in other ways; only to be taken for granted, misused and abused. Both mentally and physically. So I’m here to tell you, young moms, out there to please be aware of who you are really making children with. Be very cautious because for every BEAUTY there is a BEAST!!

 

Written By Abby Wiggins

It’s A Hard Knock Life

The Alliance presents Abby Wiggins

As a teen, your parents tell you that you should focus on your education and to stay away from “fast tail girls” or  “manish little boys. But they never tell you about the hardships of life. See I was a good girl; I was obedient, made good grades, and even went to college liken my parents told me too. But life is still kicking me at every turn. I’ve joined the military, hid injuries and still got medically discharged. Then, I went back to school and got a job in my field of study. Yet, I still can’t afford to buy pampers and wipes sometimes.  I still have to pray for a miracle to pay rent. And now  I’m nearing my second pregnancy and praying that someone will hire me just so that I can make meets. So to all you young moms that feel like they just don’t  understand you. Life is real. Life is hard. Life is something that you will fail at over and over again. And nobody can truly prepare you for what’s in store. Whatever you do, always remember to encourage and keep trying. Keep pushing forward because you have to go through the storm to get to the sun.

Run Me My Money, babydaddy

“The estimated cost of raising a child from birth through age 17 is $233,610 or as much as almost $14,000 annually.”  – CBSNEWS “There are currently 13.4 million custodial single parents living in the U.S.” “48.7% have some type of legal informal child support agreement in place.” “89.9% of those child support agreements are established […]

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